Log of Additions 1999-2006
1999 2000 2001 2002, 2003, 2004, 2005, 2006
Jan 99
Added new section on expectations to Romantic Relationships
Recommended books added to home page
Added personal growth page; added section on obedience and a
vignette on to education page; Added section on works of Maria
Montessori -link is found education page
Feb 1999
Notes on Gottman's book
Added contact info for Goleman (see FAQ's)
Reviewed Salovey book (see Recommended
Reading)
Added Reviews of Other EI
Sites
March 1999
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April 1999
May 1999
June 1999
November 1999
December 1999
February 2000
March 2000
April 2000
May 2000
June 2000
July
August
September
October
November
January 2001
February
March
May
June
- - Updated & expanded section on how Goleman is misleading the public.
- Added new section on how Goleman emotionally manipulates his readers
- The Opera Class - observations of a group of homeschooled kids being taught about operas, authority, stress, threats and fear.
- New link to 12/2000 paper by Peter Gordon
July
- added link to www.cognitivetherapy & to Bower article http://www.cognitivetherapy.com/bower.html
- added excerpts from Julie Fitness chapter
- added excerpts from dissertation by Randy Pennington
- Copy of Newsome, Day, Catano article on the predictive ability of the Bar-On EQi test. The article concludes there is no support for some of the claims being made.
- Just found out that my site is number one for EI on webcrawler.com as well as on google.com
- New link to Huy article on radical change and EI
- My first online article is published by HR.com!
- Excerpts from Randy Pennington's dissertation on EI and counseling
August
22 - Finally got back to work on my review of the Bar-On book. Added my notes from Chapter 9
Aug 3 New link to list of abstracts from EMONET conference
August 2 - Full text copy of Joe Forgas' chapter on affective intelligence From Emotional Intelligence and Everyday Life, by Ciarrochi, Forgas, Mayer
August 1 - Added copy of Robert Sternberg's letter to the editor of the APA Monitor on their article about Dan Goleman
Sept.
- Added some fun stuff
October
-- New link to David Caruso's site
on Emotional Intelligence
-- Article on Leadership
in Turbulent Times, by Randi Noyes
-- Work exchange student visits.
-- Added notes from chapter
12 of Bar_on book
-- Added notes from two books: Feelings & The Right to Feel Bad
-- French
translation of my article on the
corporate vs. academic definition of EI
November
- New collective page of my book reviews on EI related books
- My article on the recovery process -What I
have learned which could help America
December
Notes from Alice Miller's book: For your own good
Note to EMONET members
Started an Erich Fromm page
Dec 15 Revised section of my booklet for teachers and parents; new page on Thomas Gordon's work; updates to Alice Miller page
Dec 13 News clips on how decisions have emotional component
Dec. 19,20 Added link to new site on emotional literacy in UK ;new link to Claude Steiner's online emotional literacy book; update to toxic communication; notes on respect vs corporal punishment and discussing and measuring respect in education.
Dec. 25 Added link to: creatinglearningcommunities.org on education page
Dec 27 Added story to child advocacy page At Kinkos in Deleware, USA; Started page on an old parenting book I recommend reading by Faber & Mazlish.
January -June
Link to new in-press Mayer et al EI article
New file on customer service case histories.
Re-arranged Child Advocacy page and added new sections with suggestions for child advocates and a new list of feeling words for abused and at risk children and teens. Jan 14 - Story on guilt-trips & "shoulds."
Copy of After-School Program for Conflict Resolution; Dec.- Example of modeling, measuring respect in a primary school
Expressing Fears and Taking Action While Allowing Fun
Excerpts from interview with Penelope Leach.
Update to Maslow page
July
July 26 -New page on understanding
July 17 - Revised page on respect
July 15 - Concerns about Arthur Janov's Primal Therapy Institute
July 14 Revised page on emotional awareness
August
Aug - 3 Revised pages:
Emotional Honesty,
Cutting, Self-Injury,
How Depressed and Suicidal Adolescents Feel
Aug 8 Short story about respect and romance.
Aug 14 - Revised page on emotional abuse., Respect page: respect & culture, respect & parenting
Aug 15- New page on why it can be hard to talk about feelings. New page on selected feelings
August 21 - New stories about respect - 1. Respect, Obedience and Fear, 2. Why one 15 year old feels respected.
Sept
Sept 28 - New list of common feelings of depressed and suicidal teens.
October
Oct. 17 - Personal writing about depression, education, etc.
Oct 17 - Editorial on misleading info about EI
Oct 25 - Editorial titled "Emotional Intelligence or the Perfect Private Secretary?"
November
Nov 25 - Link to radio interview with Jack Mayer, one of the leading researchers and writers in the academic field of emotional intelligence. 30 minutes. Highly recommended. (This is from earlier this year - our apologies for not linking it sooner!)
December
Dec 21 - Writing on Threats and punishment,. punishment and understanding, Christmas, Emotions and EI
January
Jan 16 - Observation of mother and children (Abbey's hostile mother),
Jan 9 - Observation of mother and children (Your feelings don't matter)
February
Feb 6 - Editorial on political leadership, fear and love
Feb 21- Editorial titled "Conscience or Obedience to Authority?"
March
March 27 - Notes on Feeling Loved vs. Lectured To
April
April 4 - Letter about invalidation and my reply
April 5 - Misc. articles on education: The Snarling Teacher; Note Passing; Democracy; Punished for Laughing
April 16 - Editorial about the invasion of Iraq and Needs, Threats, Expectations, Respect and Reality
April 13 - Article on what teenagers in school need; Article about teens invalidating their peer
April 12 - Writing on cutting; feelings about invasion of Iraq
April 18 - Expanded notes from Norman Vincent Peale's book "The Power of Positive Thinking"
April 22 - Item 1 -Editorial on Invalidation, Understanding, Depression, Education, and Killiing. Item 2 - Editorial about the question: "Don't you think...?"
April 23 - Editorial on school, values etc
April 24 - Notes from "Saving Jessie" a book about a family with a teenage daugther using heroin.
April 26 - notes on attention seeking, suicide attempts
April 27 Article on emotional honesty, emotional safety in organizations
May
May 2 - Writing on listening vs obeying
May 10 Announcement of next EI workshop provided by David Caruso and Chuck Wolfe. August, 2003
May 12 -Article on Punishment vs. Understanding and Empathy in a Primary School
May 13 - Notes from Emotional Intelligence Workbook by Le Roux and DeKlerk
May 15 - Review of and notes from "Emotional Intelligence: Science or Myth", by Matthews, Zeidner and Roberts
June
June 4 - Notes on book about parenting teens
June 5 - More notes from "Emotional Intelligence: Science or Myth"
Link to editorial on physically abusing students in the USA and my additional comments
June 14 - Writing and links about abusive punishment in schools
June 23 Email about cutting and attention seeking
June 28 - Article about the "dark side" of emotional intelligence
July
July 8 - Editorial about chemical imbalances etc.
July 8 - Article and personal writing on customer service, abuse of power
July 11 - Looking for someone to come work with me. See July 11th entry on my personal site for details.
July 13 - Link to a summary of my ideas about EI created for the workplace. (as doc file. as html)
July 13 - Academic articles about 1. EI, empathy and school counseling; and 2. EI and gender
July 14 - Some writing about my experiences with teens
July 17 - Article about Shevaun Pennington
July 18 - Editoral about Shevaun and Toby; deception, respect, hypocrisy and teen suicide
July 18 - Adolescent Beauty
July 19 - Editorial: When it comes to emotional support, age doesn' t matter
July 21 - New page on EIPD - Emotionally Incompetent Parent Disorder
July 25 - Customer service story - Cardcall ; EI and personality links
July 26 - Found some old writing - Calling your daughter a dope
July 26 - Started review of EI workbook for children & teens
July 27 - Somer personal writing about working with teens
August
August 13 - A question for Dan Goleman
November
November 12 - Toxic emotions and American TV
November 12 - Dear Mother - A story about children being hit with a cane in Malaysia
Nov 12 - Update to notes on workbook on emotional intelligence for parents and teachers
Nov 12 - Notes from an old story on understanding and defensiveness
November 13- Some personal writing on listening, education, depression etc.
November 17 - Outline for a course on emotional intellience
November 17 - Editorial on Forgiveness, Terrorism and Christianity
November 18 - Copy of article "Will the real emotional intelligence please stand up" by Catherine Daus and Neal Ashkanasy
Nov 29 - "You just..." -- Notes about motives, understanding, depression and suicide
Nov 28 - Notes from a video on youth suicide
December
Dec 28 - Raising awareness of, and Identifying feelings - Example of "You won't hear from me again."
Dec 28 - Misc. modifications to Awareness page
Jan 13 - 1) A story about awareness, consciousness, power and control: "Do you remember my name?"
2) Update to John Gottman's parenting page.
3) Update to invalidation page "2 out of 3 ain't bad.
Jan 14 - 1) A story on invalidation called "Don't think so much. Don't look so serious."
A new section in invalidation called "Ordering you to look differently"
Jan 24 - Letter from a teen about her parents
Jan 24 - Notes on a person who tried to kill herself several times as a teen.
February 2004
Feb 4 - Forgiveness, Understanding. Learning and Education
March 2004
March 4 - Feeling loved, understood and respected or punished/threatened at school and home (Editorial)
March 6 -: Abuse, conflict resolution, violence prevention and education (Editorial)
March 7- Feeling Defensive, Sex, Culture, Education, EI and World Leadership (Editorial)
March 13 - News about Daniel and Tara Bennett-Goleman and how they failed to manage a serious family problem
March 19 - A story about two ways of manipulating: "Promise me..." and "I am worried about you."
March 20 - Personal writing about admiration etc. And editorial on Angels and Wardens
March 21 - How do you help someone who is being abused?
March 26 - New page on Mail from visitors -- Letter on how to help someone who has been abused.
April 2004
April 19 A few stories about children, adults, etc.
April 12 Radio interview with David Caruso (takes a while to load)
April 10 - Thoughts on motivation - Why do you do what you do?
April 9 - How to help someone who is depressed.
April 4 - Email from a suidical teen about how her mother slapping and hitting her
April 3 - An example of validating a child's feelings. "I want Mama!" by Josh Freedman.
April 3 - Criticism of "Teacher/Student Contracts"
May 2004
May 18 - Editorial -More frustration with field of EI
May 17 - Some EI humor about head teachers in the UK
May 16 - Wolfe/Caruso EI workshop. June 16-18. USA.
May 15 - Editorial - Frustration with the field of EI
May 14 Update to page on emotional intelligence test ; Notes on Stella, a suicidal teenager from Indonesia
June 2004
June 17 - Rules Feelings and Fun - Playing Basketball in Otavalo, Ecuador
June 9 - The "Expert" - A child psychologist as critiqued by a 14 year old
June 9 - Some questions for parents; Major update to Feeling Words List; Story about Mario - the "Troublemaker" in school
June 6 - Updates to Romance page, including new section on Arguments
June 6 - New page on Jane Bluestein - Educational writer
June 5 - Link to Emolit.org
July - December 2004
December 16 - My Christmas editorial. and Christmas survey
December 8 - Two stories about listening; One story about a controlling mother; Why children like me
December 4 - Two stories about understanding. Major agua fria and Listening to Manuel
October 13 - The first published use of the term EQ?
September 19 - John Mayer's New Website on Emotional Intelligence,
September 18 - Depression,
Silent
Hugs
August 30 - Dangerous to tell the truth
August 27 - Editorial on the importance of feelings, listening
August 11- Depression, computers
January 28- Revision to my history of EI page; Note to students interested in stuyding psychology;
January 29 - Updates to What they didn't teach me in school, and APA guidelines
January 30 - Updates to APA guidelines and my page on emotional intelligence tests; New page on rules and punishment in a Wisconsin, USA highschool
July 18 - Rules, Feelings and Fun - part two
January 27 - A little story criticizing so called EI tests; Some notes about an emotionally messed up family in Australia:Notes about respect from Peru
January 26 - What they didn't teach me in school
January 22 - A response to David Caruso's request to stop criticizing Dan Goleman and his family so much.
January 21 - A fucking nightmare? A story about self-talk
January 5 - Suggestions for listening- "If you want me to talk to you". Update to teacher student contract Suggestions for helping someone who is sad, depressed
February
Feb 27 - New Feedback Table;Update to page on Sasha, a suicidal teen
Feb 25 - Article on cultivating empathy by Dr. Arundhati Ray
Feb 26 - Some notes on understanding terrorism. New page on nospank.net; update to my "EI test"; Ways of expressing resentment;
Feb 9 - The Bin Laden of Emotional Intelligence?
Changes to the page on David Caruso
Critique of Goleman's Applesauce comments; A note about EI tests and what the world needs now
The start of my critique of Emmerling and Goleman's October 2003 article called "Emotional Intelligence: Issues and Common Misunderstandings"
Notes from an interview with the author of The Teenage Liberation Handbook
Manfred. a suicidal teen in Peru;
March
March 31 - Editorials Table of Contents (first 20 pages)
March 26 - My "Emotional Literacy" test
March 22 - "Youth Training Schools" - Legal abuse of teens in the USA; A list of requirements for teachers in my school
March 20 - Emotionally Abusive Mothers
March 16 - Arrogance and Power; More thoughts on "evil", terrorism, resentment; an example of an entrance exam in Peru for psychology students
March 12 - Impulsiveness and EI
March 10 - Giuliana
March 7 - more notes on understanding terrorism and the USA's reaction
March 5 - Arturo the"hyperactive" boy
Reader survey about my page on Dan Goleman
Story about Kali. A teen from Montreal.
May 4 - Personal writing. Feeling emotional
May 3 An emotionally intelligent police officer; A sensitive teenager's changing priorities
April
April 30 - Teen suicide and feeling responsible
April 24 - Another example of how false information about EI is being spread on the net; Editorial - Education, Family Values, Suicidal Teens
April 22 -Editorial about education: Sympathetic to Wittgenstein and Kant: A short story on invalidation and a suicidal teen
April 20 - Thoughts on David Caruso, the field of EI, dysfunctional families etc.
April 20 - New pages on Reuven BarOn and MHS, a test publisher
April 19- "Leading in the wrong direction" editorial about the field of emotional intelligence
April 9 - Robert Emmerling and the EI Consortium trying to discredit me.
May
May 31 - A new look at Wayne Payne's 1985 doctoral dissertation about emotions and emotional intelligence
May 15 - Table of Contents from The Wisdom of Feeling, co-edited by Peter Salovey
May 14 - (1) Emotionally Intelligent Teens (2) Inspirational Teens
May 13 - Pictures of student police in Peru
May 9 - (1) Milli, Darren, and the "Mental Disease" Myth (2) Editorial: Teen Suicide, Education and Emotional, Psychological Needs
May 8 - New page on Alexithymia
May 7 - (1) A new open letter to Rob Emmerling -- (2) Article about how social change movements get started with notes for teens
May 6 - (Item 1) A new section for Parents of Self-Harming and Suicidal Teens -- (Item 2) Another example of the incompetent mental health system-- (Item 3) Article called: Fight your feelings, or fight stupidity? An example of misguided "Christian" thinking
May 5 Budi - A story about teaching a homeless boy to use the computer; Darren, a sucidal teen in England;Cheerleading Quotes and American highschools
June
June 15 - Editorial about teen suicide, parents and mental hospitals.
June 8 - New article about youth liberation.
June 1 - New page on Defintions of Emotional Intelligence; New page on Early Signs of High Emotional Intelligence in Children and Teens
July
July 25 - Update to page on Ocean
July 10 - Update to page on Ocean.; Copy of the Introduction chapter from the book "Wisdom in feeling" by Feldman and Salovey. Personal note about my work with teens, and the police, FBI etc
August
Aug 13 - Update on my personal life.
September
Sept 18 - Stacie, a suicidal teen in England; Update to pages on Darren, Ocean and Laura
Sept 5 -
- Review of MSCEIT "emotional intelligence" test;
- Update to page on MHS the marketing company for the BarOn EQi test and the MSCEIT tests
- Update to page on Reuven Bar-On
- Update to Ocean page
- Old Note from August on "emotional intelligence tests
- Notes on the story of my partner Laura and I.
October
Oct 19 - What was the original intention of the 1995 book by Dan Goleman?
Oct 7 - Update to pages on teen suicide chat; Jerren, Laura, teen suicide work exchange program
November
Nov 30 - Journal writing
Nov 28 - Invalidation, Pain, Suicide ; Stop feeling sorry for yourself ; Update to cutting page: Why one teen cuts; new journal entries Nov 25, Nov 28
Nov 27 - Personal writing about depression, talking and energy; another example of how teens are invalidated
Nov 24 - Some of my November journal writing Nov 4, 17, 21, 24
Nov 16 - Update to Hugs; Convo with Loz
Nov 15 - Convos with Helen, Lizzie
December
Dec 2 - Happy Corporate Days, I feel therefore I care, jw
Dec 22 - High school values
Dec 16 - Ocean, Invalidation, Teen prisoners
Dec 13 - Jerren, Laura, Crystal, Jrnl
Dec 8 - More dubious marketing claims about the Bar-On EQi test
Dec 7 - Kel, Emmerling, Jerren, Jrnl, Winning, Schools, Values, My new word Phidish
Dec 5 - Updates to Laura, Jerren, Emmerling, Caruso, journal
Jan 5 - Story about resentment,
Jan 2 -Laura, Hugs, Laura part 2
Jan 1 - Laura, Laura part 2
Feb 5 - Old notes on happiness. Jrn writg
Feb 6 - New home page. New pages on codependency, guilt, Liz, talking about feelings, Updates to page on Educ in England, Loz
Feb 9 - Jen, Daniela 1 in AR, Daniela 2a in AR, codependency, Emmerling, Goleman
Feb 12 - Killing motivation, "Thanks for Listening"
Feb 15 - Emmerling
Feb 14 - Valentines Day
Feb 16 - Hugs
Feb 17 - Letters from Readers; Editorial on Abuse in UK and South America
Feb 21 - Editorial: How are you?
Feb 19 - Alfie Kohn article, my comments, journal writing.
Feb 28 - Updates to letters from readers; invalidation; teen suicide
Feb 24 - ;Article: How are you? Editorial: Feelings, Sensitive People; an Example of a Great Listener; Jrnl
Mar 5 - Convo with Business Consultant Pablo; journal
Mar 11 - Four words my family never said to me | Stress, Pressure, Nature, Love, Self-Harm
Mar 8 - American Sarcasm and Resentment, More on resentment, emotional pollution
March 19 - Site shut down notes.
Mar 17 - Judging, Understanding | Journal | Editorial Index
Mar 16 - Why my site was down for two days
Mar 25 - Key dates in EI history. Update to pages on MHS, Reuven BarOn and Steven Stein | Response to an email I got about my site. | Update to Guilt | Journal writing
Mar 23 - New page on Motivation | Update to , customer service, quotes
Mar 27 - New page on emotionally intelligent soldiers | Editorial about schools, sport, war, etc
Mar 28 - The common definition of Emotional Intelligence | Editorial - Motivation, Defining EI, Gods and Education | Updates to 1- schools, sport, war, etc, 2- phidish, 3-emotionally intelligent soldier 4- Editorials table of contents
April 4 - Editorials 63 Love, Feelings etc, & 64 How do we know what EI is? | Updates to Consequences | Thomas Gordon | My beliefs | Links
April 5 - Love, Laws, Education
April 6 - Updates to Chapter 1 and Chapter 7of my 96 book
April 7 - Feeling Motivated
April 12 - Personal writing about suicide | Teenopendiary
April 13 - Customer Service
April 17 - Heidi | Social Workers, Teens | Minor update to chap 8 of my 96 book
April 19 - Geetu Bharwaney | Update to page on Mayer Salovey 4 Branch Model of EI
April 21 - Update to Geetu Bharwaney page, Saving Jessie | Response to a reporter | Two articles about self-injury
May
May 31 - EI and Fool´s Gold | Reuven BarOn | MHS | EI Consortium
May 26 - New page on attention | Jrnl writing May 24, 26, | Updates to MHS, Links Scientology
May 12 - Journal writing
May 2 - A few questions related to EI
June
June 22 - Letter to Magazine Journalist
June 21- Insecurity and Emotional Intelligence - The Story of the Missing Group
June 20 - EI, Lying and South America
Jun 19 - Motivation, Conformity, EI
June 12 - Schools, soccer and suicide
June 8 - Conformity, EI and Decision Making
July
July 12 - Ocean, EI, Teen Suicide
(not complete)
August
Aug 30 Alisha - Letters from readers - Jrnl writing
Aug 26 - Journal wrtg, Ocean
Aug 21 - An Emotionally Intelligent Petition Against war, Killing and Destruction
Aug 18 - Motivation, Insecurity, EI, Romance
Aug 17 - Is Terrorism Effective? | Connection between Parenting, Teen Suicide, Self-Harm
Aug 12 - Killing in Lebanon and EI | Jrn Wrtg | Ocean | Jen
Aug 11 - Killing, Destruction and Chaos Part 1, Part 2, Part 3
Aug 10 - War, EI, Suicide -- Parenting, Suicide, EI -- Force, Teens -- Jrnl Wrtg.
Aug 5 - Teenagers and Abuse
September
Sept 29 - Hold me while I cry, What they didn't teach me in school
Sep 24 Pressuring Someone
Sep 22 - After school Fight
Sept 18 - Loo, Poem, Cara, Personal Writing
Sept 11 - Words on Sept 11, Ocean, New page on war
Sept 10 - A father's guilt trip on his daughter, and the effect on her
Sept 4 - Teen Suicide Article 1, Article 2, Alisha, Journal
Sept 2 - Chat with Ocean
Octobter
Oct 25 - Teen in court in Canada; Google searches on EI
Oct 16 - My "bookstores", Book on Controling Parents; Book on Abusive Mothers
Oct 15 - Natural Child Website; Delll and Customer Service call; Update to Legal ways of hurting children and teens; Teen who Killed her parents
Oct 14 - Video/Audio of Verbally Abusive Mother; "Selfish" ; Teen Bill in the USA
Oct 13 - Update to "Free Hugs" video; new page on punishment for teens called ISS and detention
Oct 12 - "Free Hugs" video
Oct 11- Critique of Dan Goleman's new site; More on Goleman's belated clarification about EI being 80% of succes; Editorial about Sex, Love, Needs, Rights
Oct 8 - Chat with suicidal teen
Oct 6 - Link to page on famous self-harmers
Oct 5 - Cutting
Oct 3 - Scott Nearing, Review of "Emotional First Aid"
Oct 2 - Avoiding preemptive invalidation
November
Nov 28 - Psychologists Don't Give Hugs
Nov 17 - Free hugs page
Nov 14 - Gays, Blacks, Native Americans, EI and Teen Suicide -- The Hanging Dog --Emotional Lives of Gifted Children -- Emotionally Intense and Gifted Article -- Editorial about Suicde and Gifted/Intense
Nov 2 - Free hugs video page -- Invalidation story
Nov 1 - -- Reader survey about teen suicide and laws
December
Dec 31 - Emotionally Abusive Mothers
Dec 24, 2006 EI, War, Peace
Dec 17 - Hugs and the Evangelical Pastor,Church
Dec 16 - Revised EI, Motivation article
Dec 14 - Abraham Lincoln, Religion and EI, New page on Obedience
Dec 13 - "ADHD", DaVinci Method, Creativity, Dawkins
Dec 12 - Psychiatry and Scientology
Dec 11 - Antipsychiatry
Dec 10 - Updates toParent test and Invalidation
Dec 9 - Dan Goleman | New page on Tears | Update to Arthur Janov page
Dec 5 - New page on volunteer programs
Dec 2 - Hugs not drugs, Update on projects in Salta